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  • Dec. 23rd, 2009 at 1:56 PM
Sparkly Snowflake

I'm trying to get back in the habit of posting here again...I really let this space languish, and I can feel it. I'm spending a lot of time over on Facebook, but it's just not the same...anyway...

The Boss let me work from home today, so I've done a little brainstorming on a project, and that's about it. I'm off to Dallas to have coffee with my sweetheart in a bit, and I may stop by the office to tie up some loose ends if it looks like I would otherwise be sitting in rush hour traffic. (Aside: I have yet to come up with a name for her in LJ land....I'm working on it.)

Tomorrow I'll be hanging at the house, possibly baking, working on my [info]holiday_wishes cards and packages. I fell behind this year, and I feel a little bad about it, but I know it also means people will be receiving a little cheer even after the formal holiday. I'm excited to do them, both because it spreads some holiday love and because it helps me declutter my card box and other little stuff that is useless to me but dearly wanted by others.

S thought she was going to have to go to family's for the holiday, but it now looks like she'll be here. So we'll have dinner and do presents tomorrow night. She ganked my stocking when she heard I would have to stuff it myself and put all my presents in it. That just tickled my heart. She is very sweet. I am hoping she likes all the little things I put together for her. We'll make a nice vegetarian dinner and spend some time together tomorrow night.

She'll be with her family on Christmas, and I'll be spending it with friends.

I was worried about this holiday, being the first without Bun. And I'm not going to lie -- opening the boxes of holiday decorations was hard. We had bought things on clearance last year, for use in future years, and seeing all that optimism and knowing how it turned out was a little bittersweet.

But at the end of the day, I am so much better off. With or without the new girl, I am in healthier place than I have been in a while, or could have ever been with Bun or E. It's a hard-won lesson but it's worth learning.
 


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  • Jul. 8th, 2009 at 10:38 AM
Blue and white butterfly
I'm trying to find my strength, but no matter how hard I dig, I don't seem to be able to.

I know I am better off. I know that I do not need to be with someone who refers to me as pathetic, a failure, unambitious, trashy, weak. I do not need to be with anyone who tells me that a "person like me" can't fit into the cosmopolitan, wealthy life she wants. I do not need to be with someone who belittles my spirituality and lists my failures. I do not need to be with someone who refuses to contribute financially and then also breaks up with me because I can't keep a house that looks like Dwell magazine while also working multiple jobs.

I know this is for the best.

Someone just needs to tell what's left of my heart.

Really Gone

  • Jul. 5th, 2009 at 8:22 PM
Bugger All This
Bun's gone, this time for good. She has been back for a couple of weeks, and in the end I just couldn't handle the constant inventories of my failings, the refusal to get a job in the area, the refusal to take any responsibilities, the put downs, the emotional battery. I left an emotionally violent marriage and entered into another emotionally violent relationship. This morning I finally stood up for myself, and that was it.

She packed what she could and bailed. She'll be back for the rest soon.

I don't know what impact this has on my tentative plans to move to Houston.

I'm devastated but OK.

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  • Jun. 4th, 2009 at 3:56 PM
Natural Dragonfly
I need everyone to know I am OK. I have so appreciated all your comments and messages over the last few days. I'm going to reply as soon as my head is more together.

But I am OK. I am focusing very much on myself right now, on what I need and want in my life, on what I will and won't accept.

Bun actually showed up last night to talk things out. She told me she realized she had made a big mistake leaving. I am glad she is here, and willing to hear what she has to say and all that. What we'll ultimately decide is best for each of us, I don't know.

But everyone, please know that I am well, I am focused, and I am seeking what is in my highest good right now. I am not going to do anything that will be to my ultimate detriment. I refuse to go back into bad patterns or into a life that it anything less than the awesome, fulfilling, healthy, magnificent one that I deserve.

And I'm in hardcore "no bullshit" mode.

I love you all.

Over

  • Jun. 1st, 2009 at 4:40 PM
Ice Tree
Bun packed what would fit in her car this morning and moved back to Houston. She'll be back for the rest of it soon.

I can't believe it's over.

I love her so much.

I am wrecked.

I'll be Ok, but I'm not sure when.

For all who've....

  • May. 26th, 2009 at 4:00 PM
Dragonfly and Wheat
...messaged, called, or commented....

First, thank you. Your support and honesty mean more than you can know.

Secondly, I'm doing OK. I have my rough patches, but I'm doing OK. Bun and I have talked, and I don't know where things are going to go there. Right now I'm focused on the things I need to do to make my life better, whether there is a partner in it or not.

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