Bun's gone, this time for good. She has been back for a couple of weeks, and in the end I just couldn't handle the constant inventories of my failings, the refusal to get a job in the area, the refusal to take any responsibilities, the put downs, the emotional battery. I left an emotionally violent marriage and entered into another emotionally violent relationship. This morning I finally stood up for myself, and that was it.

She packed what she could and bailed. She'll be back for the rest soon.

I don't know what impact this has on my tentative plans to move to Houston.

I'm devastated but OK.